Change is a chance to wake up from your personal status quo, reflect, reassess where you are heading, and discover routines that no longer serve you.
Change can be positive and rewarding.
I love changes, whether I create them or need to adapt to them. A change indicates an opportunity to find out how I can flex myself and the situation so that I live a happier and more fulfilled life. I see any change as a true soul-searching journey where I can find both my personal and external limits.
Is the journey always straightforward? Is the journey always easy? No! Of course, it is not, nor should it be. The harder the journey, the more memorable it will be and the prouder and stronger we will feel after we have gone through it.
Some time ago, I asked people what changes they liked and what they did not like. The most repeated answers were:
- I like changes that are meaningful, that bring positive outcomes, and that everyone benefits from.
- I dislike changes that seem meaningless, that are imposed on me, and that I cannot control.
What is the problem with change?
The problem with change is that at the very moment it is happening, we do not know what the outcome will be. We often perceive it as meaningful because we believe it will bring a positive outcome. We see a link to how the change can improve our lives (or at least not cause deterioration).
But what if we do not immediately see the positive link between the change and our individual happiness? What if we do not believe that the change will be good for us? What if we need to adapt to such a change? Then we will get stressed. But why?
How is change perceived?
We are biologically programmed to perceive external change as a danger, like animals who scan their environments for a potential predator. Any change in the environment is a warning sign, and we are programmed to mobilize our forces so that we survive the danger. This creates stress, to which stress experts have identified three responses: Fight, Flee, or Freeze. (Fight = complaining, aggressivity, anger; Flee = avoiding certain situations, getting ill; and Freeze = no reaction, passivity, procrastination.)
The three Cs:
Various researchers have shown that some people deal with stress easier than others. A study by psychologist Suzanne Kobasa showed that stress-resistant professionals exhibit The Three Cs: Control, Challenge, and Commitment. The following type of people encounter fewer negative effects of stress:
- those who believe they are in control of their lives
- people who feel challenged and see an opportunity to learn at work
- those who feel good about what they do and are committed to it
To cut a long story short, knowing that external change can create stress, and knowing that people with The Three Cs cope better with stress, I have been using the following technique to ease myself through the most difficult changes in my professional life. It helped me find myself in the change and enjoy the process.
The technique to reframe change to always play in your favor:
- Take a breathing space: Simply stop, tune into yourself, and acknowledge your emotions and your response to the stress caused by the change. There are several different techniques you can use. One of them is to talk about your situation, label your emotions and identify a couple of thoughts creating these emotions. This will help you cool down and start thinking more clearly.
- Take control by setting your personal intention: What do I want to achieve so this change will be positive for me? (e.g., If you have been moved to a position that does not correspond to your level and skills, your personal intention could be to obtain a more suitable position in 6 – 12 months.) By creating a positive future, you will also create the energy and drive needed to start changing things for yourself.
- Create challenge by reframing your motivation: Instead of trying to survive the change, use the new situation as the training ground. Ask yourself: What is my personal challenge in this change? Where can I see an opportunity to learn in order to create the right future for myself? This will help you find your own meaning in the change and enable you to start creating benefits for yourself.
- Grow commitment: Start acting on your personal challenge to achieve your intention. This is a tricky part, as you can quickly burn yourself out with your first failures, especially if you move too quickly without a structured approach. As soon as you start seeing progress and positive results, things will start falling into the right place.
Well, I admit, this is a fairly simplified description. It takes a couple of coaching sessions to get into the right mindset and rhythm.
There is strength in change.
Change does not always have to be handled as previously discussed. Sometimes it is really better to leave and look for a different professional opportunity. At the same time, are not all these changes and challenges here to make us stronger? They are doing us one big favor – they are taking us out of our comfort zones. They give us opportunities to find out who we really are. Plus, they offer us a chance to discover that we are capable of much more than we ever thought. So why not take this chance and finally learn what we need to learn?
In the end, it is just a game. The more we play the game, the more we learn, the more comfortable we will feel, and the more likely we will end up with the best result.
In the workshop POWER4CHANGE, we give you simple tools. They include: dealing with change, taking meaningful actions, and achieving a steady progress.
We will help you create change and adapt to change with ease and efficiency. You will discover a stronger and better version of yourself.
About the trainer and coach:
Lenka Grackova builds on 14 years hands-on business experience (marketing, sales, logistics, start-up), brain-based coaching techniques, and interpersonal skills to assist people in finding more enthusiasm when they go through challenging developments. She helps them tackle their biggest challenge: how to adjust to the change and still stay themselves.
To learn more about Lenka’s training and coaching, go here.